Oaklie's Birth Story.

So I am officially back! 

I am so happy to announce Oaklie Sue Fernstedt was born on October 9,2014 at 3:26 pm. 

So as some of you may know I got induced, I didnt want to and it was definitely proven that i will never get induced again! I mean dont get me wrong, I know it could of been worse but I was hoping for a great experience.

The night before i was being induced we dropped Brodie off at my moms and we went to Sam's soccer game, we were going to go to a movie but decided we were to tired. Yes I feel super old haha. 

I got the phone call to be to the hospital by 7 am, so when we got home i finished packing my hospital bag and went to bed. I was so nerved up that we weren't going to wake up to our alarms that I woke up at 3 am and couldn't go back to sleep. Of coarse our alarms did go off and I called the hospital to make sure i am still going in at 7 and sure enough they changed my time to 8, which isnt to bad. 

We left for the hospital and I kept saying that I didnt feel like we were having a baby. When we got there they put us in our room and started asking me all the questions you have to go threw. Then they were starting my IV and my DR came in to break my water, which I hated! 

So I asked my sister in law to do a birth story for me, so after they broke my water I sent her a text to come whenever and sure enough she was there with in 45 minutes! 

After they broke my water i started having contractions on my own but I wasnt feeling them yet, they still gave me the pitocin. About 2 hours after the pitocin I was feeling slightly uncomfortable so I went ahead and asked for an epidural to be safe then sorry, by that time I was only dialated to a 3. 

And this is when all the fun things started happening for me.

As I was getting the epidural I felt a really big pop and I some how felt like that was not supposed to happen and after he finished he explained to me it was not supposed to happen and the reason why is the pocket the epidural goes into was bigger then expected so when he put it in it might of caused a spinal fluid leak, he explains it rarely happens to him and if what he thinks happened I would end up feeling a really big pop some where along my spine to my head and I would get a very bad headache. Not two hours after receiving it I turned my head and felt a huge pop in my neck and got and instant headache. 

Well as the day went on I moved along pretty good with my progress, at first it seem slow but I was making progress, when I was at a 4 I ended up getting sick from the pitocin and started throwing up, yeah so fun! So on top of the headache I was now throwing up, thats what every pregnant women wants in labor right? Of coarse the medicine's they gave me didnt do anything either and from throwing up I got heartburn on top of it..... Yay me! no not really!!! 

So it felt like I was at a 5 for forever, ok like 2 hours then within 45 min I was at a 10. I felt like my epidural was wearing off and I could feel my contractions and feel that I needed to push so I called the nurses is and when they checked me that's when I was at a 10! I started panicking because 1 my dr wasn't there yet. 2 those of you that know I pushed 19 times and Brodie came out so I was terrified my dr wasn't going to make it. 3 I was still throwing up. I kept saying I'm going to throw up and this baby is going to come flying out!!! Sam kept saying no Bre your going to be pushing forever. I on the other hand was convinced she was shooting out haha. So I'm trying to resist pushing and throwing up and I was so uncomfortable! I wanted to cry to be honest. 10 minutes later in walks my dr. Thank goodness! As he's getting ready and suited up I said how glad I was he was there because I'm going to throw up and she's coming out fast. So my dr said well let's see how fast you can get this baby out. Haha challenge excepted! Let's just say I was right. On the 3rd push the dr yelled at me to stop! Ha. And she kinda popped out on her own. I joke that I'm meant to give birth. 

So out she came. Our little Oaklie was here just like that. 

6 pounds 10 ounces. 18 1/2 inches. 

And the curliest red hair I've ever seen! 

I'll let my pictures tell the rest :)  

So we decided to make a fun little game while I was in labor, we decided that every time the nurses came in to check me that we were going to make a new bet about baby. Started with her weight and so on. I will say Sam and I both lost to Marina.

My cute Brodie had to come in his Spider-Man costume. 

My brother wasn't aloud to come in because he wasn't a sibling to Oaklie and he's under 14 so they came to the window. 

 Family means everything to me and I love these 3 so much! 

Oaklie Sue Fernstedt

There is nothing like a newborns pictures.

 I am in love with this sweet angel. I couldnt be more grateful for my two children.

I cant believe this little is just over two weeks old. She holds her head up so well already, loves kicking on the floor and tummy time, ive gotten her to smile at me a couple times, the other day she started giggling in her sleep. 

Oaklie is the perfect baby, since she got here she has slept at least 6 hours at night, I have only herd her cry maybe 5 times. She is loved by many. 

I love you Oaklie.

36 weeks pregnant.

Holy cow..... Am I already 36 weeks along?! Yup I sure am! It's crazy that in a way it feels like it's been going so slow but then at the same time it's gone so fast! It's just crazy that before I know it I'm going to have two kids! How am I going to go to the store?! How long is it going to take me to leave the house now?! All these crazy things are running threw my mind. I know I'll be fine but honestly it's giving me anxiety thinking about it. It's kinda like the first baby nerves. But not only am I having a second child, but I'm having a girl! You know how scared I am to have a girl? I feel like they are far more trouble then boys haha call me crazy but I feel like they are. They come with so much more things. Basically boys are straight up simple. And girls are complicated. Hmmm I finally get why boys always say that ;) haha. 

I've had this goal in my head since I found out that I'm pregnant that I wanted everything done for Oaklie to come before September because that's when Sam will be done with trainings and I want to do some fun things with Brodie as a family of 3 before we flip his world upside down. Well guess what?! I finished everything! All my baby shopping, painted the kids dressers for their room, got Oaklie's canvas painted, crib is set up, clothes are washed, basically everything you can think of is done! Yes even my hospital bag! Even all the little missing things you seem to forget! Yup I'm that together. Now what are we going to do for the next 3 weeks? Who knows but I'm going to enjoy my boys before we bring this new bundle of joy home. So go me!!! :) 

So besides all of that I am so excited to have a tiny baby to hold again. I'm excited for Brodie to be a big brother. Im excited for a lot of things! Having a girl is definitely going to be a lot different. 

So my due date is in 4 weeks but I decided to get induced a week early. I have my own beliefs on it and it's not something I want to do but Sam and I feel like that's what is best for us, because my family is gone the week of my due date and Sam leaves the weekend of my due date and Sam parents travel a lot for his dads work and they are gone almost all of October. So as everyone can see going to my due date is pushing it with not having help with Brodie and risking Sam being gone. I'm just hoping she comes early on her own at this point haha. So with that being said 3 weeks from today I will be holding my sweet baby girl! 

Pregnancy in a nut shell

Holy cow, am I already 30 1/2 weeks? Yup I am! Am I ready? Pretty much!
I had a goal to have most everything done before September, and yup I am pretty much there.
She's got clothes to last her until 6 months, I have fabric to make her blankets, crib is set up, canvas decorations are done, basically all that's left is diapers (which I'm buying this week) and I'm pretty much set. Although she still needs a crib sheet and a bumper those can wait for a couple months.
But most importantly she has a name. Now most everyone knows her name but before I say what it is I have to say this one has been hard for me. With Brodie we had his name picked out before we even got married, we just knew if we ever had a boy his name was Brodie.
When we got pregnant with her we played around with names and made jokes about the ones we liked to see how bad she can be made fun of, we went threw so many names! About 17 weeks (we found out she was a she at 15 weeks) I told Sam I'd love to have another name ending in ie. he either liked some and I hated them or the other way around. Well one day I was around 26 weeks we came across the name Oaklie, and we both fell In love with the name and it gave me what I wanted. A name ending in ie. I was so excited. Now a lot of people don't believe us because we've changed it so many times but I honestly feel like this is her name and it's meant to be. I haven't thought about changing it and I'm not going to. We couldn't be happier with the name Oaklie!
So this pregnancy has by far been so different then Brodie's, with Brodie I was so beyond sick. I had morning sickness so bad I was constantly in the hospital and I ended up having to do at home iv therapy, I had heart burn like crazy to the point I was on a prescription and honestly I was so miserable with throwing up I didn't notice much else. Now with Oaklie I had morning sickness but nothing like I did with Brodie. I'm not sure if it's because I got ahead on my nausea meds or what but I didn't feel as sick. I did get one iv but that was it. Week 10 was the worst for me but that was it other then my random moments I'd have here and there. With Brodie morning sickness didn't go away until I was 34 weeks, so basically the whole time. With Oaklie I felt sick until around 15 weeks. I still get nauseous but haven't thrown up lately. Only once in a great while. I do get heartburn crazy bad and am on medications. I get really tired a lot and feel like I have no energy. I am already waddling and can't get comfortable when I sleep. With Brodie I got 1 stretch mark and with Oaklie I already have 10. She likes to sit on one of my nerves so my arm and leg are going numb a lot. With Brodie I never had cravings and Oaklie I always want something sweet or sometimes spicy. She goes crazy when I drink Shasta or eat a twix. With Brodie I couldn't eat tomatoes which was sad because I love a good garden grown tomato. Both of my pregnancies I can't eat anything with strawberries, I'll be so sick if I even take a bite or drink anything with strawberries. With Brodie I couldn't of told you if I felt he was a boy or girl before we new the gender but with Oaklie I just knew she was a girl, it was so crazy how I just knew. I thought people were nuts and would just say that because that's what they wanted. Brodie was always a wiggly worm in my belly and Oaklie is always so quiet.
I can't believe we are already down to 9 1/2 weeks, it was going so slow at first and now it's going super fast. I'm so excited for Brodie to be a big brother! And I can't believe I get one of each. I always thought I would have all boys.
Well we can't wait to meet this little girl! October seems so far away but 9 weeks doesn't.

Always Catching Up.....

Ok so I know I'm the worst blogger lately. I'd love to blame it on pregnancy brain but I can't. So Sam went to Germany for 3 weeks and that went by fast. He had fun, and enjoyed getting to have a little taste of Germany. They only got two days to go off the military base and it was only like 6 hours each day. But it's better then nothing. 

After he got home we were so busy doing family things on both sides. My sister Kiefer was leaving on a mission with a couple weeks and our baby niece was being blessed. We just didn't really get a break. It was something different every weekend and then Sam had drill. We sent my sister off on her mission and things finally started slowing down. Sam had a nice 4 day weekend and we did a whole lot of nothing. Haha. Now here we are and it's august. Seriously everything is busy and going by so fast. 

Sam just started yet another 3 week training. Good thing it's just at camp Williams which is about 30 minutes from our house. We were told he didn't get to come home but as Thursday night came along he found out he got to come home at night. Yay! Makes my life easier haha. The last week he has to stay though but I'd take that over 3 weeks! When Sam is done with this he's home for 3 days then has a training for another 3 days. I swear the trainings this year never end. 

This summer has gone by fast and Sam has been so busy. Hopefully after the baby comes things slow down. 

Brodie has been keeping me on my toes this summer, we've had a lot of bumps, scratches and bruises. Yup I'd say he is a boy and a toddler. He doesn't want to slow down. We've gone swimming at my moms a few times and we bought him a puddle jumper, with that thing on he is such a fish. He loves following Sam around the pool. He feels so big. He loves nerf guns and monsters gummy snacks, I can't believe my baby is two still! He is talking so much, he never stops! Mom, car wash? Mom, shopping and shopping cart? Mom, grandmas house? Mom, mom, mom! All day long haha. Some times I get frustrated with it but I absolutely love it! I love when he gets talking so much you can't understand him after the 4th word and looks at you like mom did you get that? 

He is still the sweetest boy ever and loves to snuggle! I will be sad when he doesn't want to snuggle anymore. He is always asking for kisses and hugs.

He loves animals and pointed out everything to tell me what it is. 

I promise I'm trying to keep the blog up to date the best I can. 

So until next time, see you all soon!

The Last Few Weeks To See You Soon,

You might be wondering why i did the title i did, but i will explain. So Sam has been a very busy guy the month of May, the first 3 weekends he was off doing military things. First weekend he had his normal drill, then the next two he got put on what is called orders to go to Wyoming to transport tanks to another military base. 

Well Sam had one weekend before he left for Germany to be with his Family. Luckily it was a 4 day weekend for him. We had my sisters high school graduation that Friday night. 

We watched a lot of movies with little B and played outside. Saturday night we went to a REAL soccer game with our friends, it was a lot of fun to be with everyone and spend that time before Sam left. Sunday we spent the day with Sam's family and his sister and kids ended up sleeping over and we stayed up watching movies. I will say staying up till 2 am isn't as easy as it used to be haha! Monday was Memorial day and we let the kids play outside all day in the water and we had a bbq. It was a very nice weekend. 

This last week has been nothing but trying to get him ready for his big trip to Germany. Doing all of our last minute running around, making sure he had everything he needed, going to banks to make sure things will go smoothly with our debit cards, calling the phone company to make sure we can still talk, to trying to squeeze in last minute dinners with our families and a last minute date. Friday was definitely a crazy day because it was the day before he left. 

One thing i have learned with being a "military" wife is that no matter how you feel you can't be to sad or talk about the stresses of life before they leave. Why might you ask, well they don't need anything to worry about while they are away, especially when they go out of the country. They have enough to worry about why they are gone, even though its only a few weeks its still something they don't need. Sure we will send the occasional "i miss you" text but talking about the dramas of home is a stress they don't need. They just need and want to hear everything is fine. When they come home thats when you can tell them everything. Saving the "goodbye" crying for after you drop them off is usually the best way to do things. 

Getting Sam's last minute packing done Friday took all day long. We finally tried getting some sleep around midnight, which didn't do much since we had to be up at 2:30am to take him to camp williams. I will admit saying goodbye isn't the easiest thing for me to do. I get asked if it is something i get used to, and honestly not really. Yeah it might get a little easier but its still hard. I will say that after having little B things got easier but i think its because if you show emotions then it sends your child mixed messages. One of the biggest challenges i have faced is keeping things normal while Sam is gone. By normal i mean the same routines, sure we go do more fun things to keep us busy and go have sleepovers at my moms but i like to try and not make it one big party when he leaves, keeping the same bedtime and things like that. Brodie is starting to notice a lot more when his daddy leaves but doesn't understand why, so i like to keep him busy so he doesn't think to much about it. 

Germany is a first for all 3 of us, Sam has never been out of the country and we have never had him so far away. Sam has now been there for 2 days, he left 3 days ago but he had a full day of flying. I finally got to talk to him at midnight last night after he got settled in and got caught up on some sleep. 

So far he says they haven't started working they are just hanging out, which is probably best considering the time changes. The time change is something we both need to get used to. 

I will try and keep everyone up to date on his Germany trip. i just hope these 3 weeks go by fast. 

Well I'm very behind....

Once again I'm behind on my blog. These last months have been more then crazy. From everyone being sick to finding out some big news!!! Obviously everyone knows by now but February 1,2014 we found out after months of trying we will be expecting a sweet new baby! But not just a baby... We found out we are having a girl!!!! October is so far away!! But I'm over the moon! Not only have I always wanted a girl but I get one of each. I feel really lucky in a way. I've always wanted a boy and then a girl. I know Brodie will be the best big brother ever! Since we found out that I am pregnant we asked Brodie if he's having a sister or brother, it didn't matter which way or how we asked it was always sister or girl. I know this sounds crazy but I think he's always known. I feel like kids can sense stuff like that. He's always touching my tummy saying baby sister. It's really sweet.
Well a lots happened other then finding out the new addition. Sam and his friends made a soccer team and they play indoor soccer. I think it's really good they got together to do this. Not only that we have a busy year with military stuff! In January Sam went for a week to do a training for his military career. He does them to certify for different machines And all kinds of things. So he got to do that and he still has his Normal one weekend a month drill. May and June and August are going to be the worst for us. Started last weekend Sam had his two day drill, this weekend and next he got put on orders to transport tanks to Wyoming. Such a fun drive for him haha then he gets one weekend with no military thank goodness! Then may 31 he leaves for his Normal summer training but this year it's different. It's not two weeks it's 3! And it's in Germany!! So cool for Him! He's never been out of the country. I think he will have tons of fun. Finally he gets to do something cool! Haha. So he gets home the end of June then just has a weekend training in July. Then August he goes to camp Williams for another 3 week training! I'm not quiet sure what it's for. I lose track of all the trainings. I've learned to focus on just what's coming up and not what's months away. So Sam is just a busy bee this year!
Brodie is getting so big! He's two you guys! I can say it wasn't as emotional as one was but it was still hard. But poor Brodie bug had strep on his birthday. Poor kid was miserable. It's never fun being sick let alone on your birthday. He's getting so big. He's talking so much and is very smart. He's very smart with matching puzzles and games. He loves singing to songs and watching movies. He loves playing soccer like his dad and just loves being outside. Sam got Brodie's sandbox done in the backyard and every chance he gets he is playing in it. He thinks it's funny when I Berry him! He is just a busy kid who loves being outside. He learns so much and is just getting smarter. I'm grateful for such a great kid. He's been very patient on the days I've been sick and will just watch movies with me on the bad days. I love him more then anything. I still can't believe he's mine.
Nothing really new with me. Just being the soccer wife and mom and cooking this cute little girl in my belly. I started feeling her kick a lot this week and I can already tell she is going to be a wild child haha just kidding. She is opposite of Brodie. I can tell by the ultrasounds. Brodie was always trying to stretch out and never wanted to be cramped. She is always in a ball and every time we try to get a profile picture she puts her hands to her face and has leave me alone attitude "drama queen"? I think yes haha.
So In February I was watching my siblings while the parents went to Texas. I noticed our dog (my parents dog) Nika was getting skinny and not just running off winter fat skinny I'm talking dropped like 10 pounds out of know where. So I called my parents and said I'm worried I think she has worms she not eating now. Well I took her to the vet and got the worst news ever! My baby girl had cancer and there wasn't anything we could do. For people who know me this broke my heart. I have never connected with a dog like I did Nika. When my parents got her she slept with me. I help with her. She was like my own. She was a bird hunting breed and my dad was trying it train her to do that but I felt it was cruel and as everyone would say I "ruined" her. She became the biggest human like dog baby I've ever met. She had to be under the covers of your bed with her head on the pillow. She'd whin at me In the mornings I had to get up for school and she didn't want to get up to go potty. She wanted to sleep. I'd take her in my bug to go get a cheeseburger and coke. (Coarse she got a cheeseburger) she was like my best friend. I still cry when I think about her. She was honestly the best dog we have ever had. I could go on with stories. I don't care if you read this and think it's just a dog boohoo. Well she wasn't "just" a dog. She was a person, my sister, my best friend. She was FAMILY!!! So when I got this news she had cancer and she would have to be put down I lost it. I cried for days. Worst valentines day ever. But I knew It was the right thing. She should of suffered. I hurt for my dad because Nika was also his baby and having to call them was the worst. I mean I'm so glad I got to be there and hold her while she went to heaven but I wish my dad could of been there for her in those moments. I wish my whole family could of been there to say goodbye. It was so hard because it happened so fast and was so unexpected. I had to break the news to basically everyone. Having to call my parents to having to pick my sister up and telling her. Nika was everyone's baby. We all bonded on our own level with her and have our own stories. I was lucky to be there for the beginning and the end. She will always have a place in my heart.
So besides all the business and heartbreaking time we are still moving on and surviving. We can't wait to welcome our baby girl in October. In the mean time there is so much to get done and hopefully I will blog more. Until next time see you all later!